My tips for body confidence – How I make myself feel more confident

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Dress – TopShop (you will be seeing a lot more of this dress it is amazing)

BODY CONFIDENCE

In this post I want to talk about body confidence. This has been a big subject for me since a young age, I have never felt completely comfortable in my skin. Especially as I am surrounded by beautiful, skinny friends, which is not a bad thing they are all stunning, but obviously it can be daunting on you confidence in any type of way. I have always felt the biggest. I was always the tallest in my year, big boobs, big bum, big belly. But since making a few simple changes over the past few years (especially recently) I have gained a whole lot of self worth and appreciation for my body.

1.DO NOT COMPARE YOUR BODY

This is my biggest pointer to when gaining a lot more body confidence. You don’t want to be like all these girls on social media because lets face it, it is not real life. How many times have you pretending to laugh or overly editing a photograph? Because believe me, we all do the same. You have got to learn to love yourself for who you are. There will always be someone who is ‘seemingly’ better than you! What you see as a ‘good body’ other people might not, everyone is different and everybody is special. Who knows, to somebody else, your body may be perfect.

“The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel”

2. WELL BEING

A lot of people forget that confidence comes with well being.Getting enough rest, eating the right foods and exercising is very important. Move more, eat better, not less, drink more water and sleep more. Stress is also very bad for your body, taking time out of work to do what you love and destress yourself will automatically make yourself feel more confident. Stress is a big one for me, because I can be a massive stress head, but when I come to realise that stress will get me know where it will automatically make me happier.

3. LOVE

We as humans, often focus on what we hate about ourselves rather than what we love, causing us to beat ourselves down but we do not give our bodies enough credit. The things that we will want to change about ourselves others would die for and same the other way round. Are we just being critical and putting ourselves under to much pressure to look a certain way? It is very easy for our mind to play tricks on us but as soon as you realise, you will feel a lot more positive about your body.

4. TAN & HYDRATE

Nothing will make you feel more confident that having a perfect tan and hydrating skin. First of all obviously drink more water. Water is the most natural way to clear your skin. Secondly, use your favourite body moisture and apply it every morning. I get so much more confidence when my body is glowing. Thirdly, I use Bondi Sands – Dark, to keep my skin in the Summer season all year round. Honestly, when I apply fake tan to my skin I feel so much more body confident. I don’t know whether it is just me, but I instantly feel more toned and glowing.

5. STAYING FIT

When I am feeling run down, the way for me to boost my confidence is to hit the gym. I have got extremely into CrossFit recently and it is making me feel super confident. It makes me super relaxed and energetic, I think this is my top tip to being body confident.

Easter Holidays | 5 ways to stay motivated/inspired

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Over the past 3 weeks I have really been trying to better myself. I have been getting up early, going to the gym, eating well and concentrating on my degree. I only have 6 weeks until my exam! STRESS!

Over the past month of University I went into a hole and was not being the best version of myself. Giving myself some time out has really helped me prioritise what is important. I want to stay motivated and inspired. This degree isn’t going to pass itself and this summer body is not going to build on its own. It is all down to me.

I have come up with a couple of pointers that will hopefully help you into a positive mindset.

Brunch with Solly at Kiver Court, Shepton Mallet

FIRST OF ALL – DO NOT COMPARE

Comparing yourselves to other people is a extremely de – motivating. I have struggled with this my whole life. Having gorgeous friends, social media and not feeling good enough. It has only taken me until now to realise that this is not good for me. Comparison will put all your focus on the wrong person and can take control of your life. A bit of competition is healthy but why should you waste your energy, concentrating on other peoples lives rather than your own.

Celebrate somebodies achievements, rather than be envious. Comparing your beginning to someone else middle or even end, will prevent you from truly enjoying your own success and achievements (Alexandra Coppadge.)

Yes, I know this is easier said than done but you have got to stay in your own lane and focus on your goals. Keep these people as an inspiration plus, the way social media portrays somebodies life may not always be real. I can promise you that the girl you think has a perfect life on instagram has stuff going on behind closed doors. Everybody does! You’re not alone.

“Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourselves to others”

SECONDLY – MAKE LISTS

I am a huge believer in the fact that making lists will help you achieve your goals. A lot of the time I will wake up in the morning and completely forget everything I wanted to accomplish that day. Writing a list will motivate you to get things done, especially when you can tick it off at the end of the day. You will have a feeling of relief and accomplishment.

Writing lists will help you priorities and this is something I find extremely difficult. Juggling my degree, fitness, blog, boyfriend and social life can be difficult sometimes. When I don’t prioritise i end up getting nothing done and regretting it by the end of the day. Obviously at my age socialising seems to be my top priority, but since being at University I have realised what is important.

Dinner at FireHouse, Curry Rivel with my primary school friends which I haven’t caught up with in a year

THIRDLY – REMOVE DISTRACTIONS

My biggest battle with motivation has to be my mobile. For some reason, sitting at my desk scrolling through Instagram is a lot more important than getting any of my work done. So obviously, to stay motivated you have to remove this distraction. TURN IT OFF.

LASTLY – SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE

I am lucky enough to have the best group of friends around me and I know how much it can inspire me. Being able to have some time out to smile and laugh rather than be stressed about what your friends is very important. Do not surround yourself with people who bring you down.

 “Notice the people who are happy for you happiness and sad for your sadness”

I really do believe that surrounding yourself with positive people will inspire and motivate you. People who share your excitement when you are doing well, people with goals, dreams and are open minded and the best kind of friends. If someone does not support you, you have to question yourself if they are really a friend.

“You are responsible for your own happiness”

WINTER 2017 video| Emily May Thorne

MY LATEST YOUTUBE VIDEO – SUBSCRIBE!

As you all must of seen by now, I love making videos. I made my first youtube video when I was in Year 10 and visited my Dad in Saudi Arabia. Looking back on it now, the editing is all off, the videos are bad quality but I still love it. The feedback I got from that video was amazing and motivated me to carry on making them. Many of my videos I have not actually put on YouTube and when I started making them, I made them for my own enjoyment and a memory rather than to actually be noticed. A lot of people think that being a Youtube means that you want to become known but I make them because they make not only me happy, but everyone in the videos happy. It is such an amazing thing for my family, friends and I to look back on, which I will carry on doing for a very long time.

This is a video I have made to basically show all of my Christmas holidays. Because I had been at Uni coming home for Christmas was amazing, all my friends were back, my dad was home and nobody had work so our main priority was all catching up. I hope you enjoy it, let me know what you thing!

S.A.D.

Seasonal Affective Disorder

“A type of depression in which comes and goes in a seasonal pattern”

S.A.D is also known as “winter depression” as your moods do change regularly according to the weather and gloomier seasons. It is also a lot more servers during the winter periods, such as through December, January and February. It is a seasonal pattern due to it disappearing in the Spring and Summer time and then returning each Autumn and Winter in a repetitive pattern.

Symptoms can include:

  • Low mood
  • Feeling of guilt and worthlessness
  • Lack of energy
  • A loss of pleasure or interest in normal day activities
  • Stressed and irritable

Main treatments: Lifestyle measures – Natural sunlight, exercising and managing stress levels.

Personally, I have never been one to suffer from any sort of mental health issues. I have always been a worrier but altogether my head is very screwed on, I don’t let things get to me and although I stress, I am able to deal with it. But last week I was feeling extremely emotional and stressed, it was something I had never in my 19 (nearly 20) years of living felt before? I was finding myself getting overly stressed about University, friends, my health and not knowing what to do with myself.

Being at University can be a big strain on you mental health, you are away from what you know, alone, in a place you don’t really know and surrounded by people you have only known for 5 months. At times it can be hard, but I have never felt the strain I felt last week.

I have always been the type of person too, when I am feeling a certain way I will sort it out myself. When I am sad, i will socialise to make myself happy, when I am stressed I will work on what is stressing me out, but I was not able to do that this week. Although I organised everything for my friends and I this week, I finished my Winter 2017 video and found that I got a 2:1 in an exam I thought I had failed, I still went out of Friday night and came home early and alone crying my eyes out. The next morning I woke up and was thinking, what is wrong with me? I have never felt this before and I could not explain it. I was said and stressed but for what reason?

So on that note, I went home. I spent the weekend with my family and boyfriend, just trying to figure out while I was feeling like this. That was when I came across S.A.D. I have now realised it is normal to have bad weeks, it is not a bad thing and I should not be embarrassed about it. But knowing how to turn it around is what is important.

how to spend valentines day single/away from your boyfriend

These are photos from the weekend where my boyfriend Solly and I celebrated Valentines Day early. He arrived on the Saturday early afternoon, but it was such horrible weather neither of us wanted to leave the flat. So we waited until the evening where we went for dinner at Chiquitos in the Bournemouth town centre. I have never been there before but I would definitely recommend it. We decided to try something different as we spend most of our time in places such as Frankie & Bennies. Solly got a fajita and I got a beef burger, they were both amazing and the service was great. The next day we had a lye in then decided to walk down to the beach where we got a light lunch and spent all of Solly money in the arcade. The weather was a lot nicer on Sunday but was still blowing up a storm, hopefully the weather will improve throughout the week. The sun is getting me excited for the Summer.

Obviously I am not single, I have had a boyfriend for nearly 4 years. But as I am spending this Valentines Day apart from my boyfriend I thought I would share with all you singletons what my friends and I got up to on Valentines Day and give you ideas so you do not feel lonely.

Yes, Valentines Day is a day of love but is there a real reason why you should feel so lonely on this one day out of the year? Instead of being upset about being single, it is a time to share you love to everyone else you have around you. I spent my Valentines Day having a few cocktails at Turtle Bay with my closest friends at University. There are other ways to be spending your time rather than pining over having a boyfriend/girlfriend, it can be a day to celebrate your independence.

How did you all spend Valentines Day?

 

How to have a good night sleep at University…

Sleeping at University is one of the hardest things in the world. You are lying in an uncomfortable bed, within a tiny room and loads of students are playing music or making loads of noise right outside your window. So I have found an amazing, natural solution of how I easily fall to sleep at night.

Right at the beginning of University my mum took me to Holland and Barrett to find myself a remedy to get myself to sleep at night. I already had a problem with sleeping when I am in my own bed, let alone sleeping at University.

Miaroma – Lavender & Coconut Oil Hydrating Spritz

We came across this oil in which you spray on your face and body to calm your mind. It helps relax your body to easily sleep at night. I personally try not to use it every single night as I do not want to rely on anything to be able to sleep, although this is 100% natural. But using it when you are really struggling is not a problem. Although this spray is mainly used for falling asleep, it can be used when you are stressed or at anytime you are needing to relax.

This natural, relaxing and hydrating spritz can be applied all over your face and body, to calm your mind. This innovative formula contains liquid coconut oil, to quench dehydrated skin with a light sheen of nourishment and hydration. 

Although this is the main product that helps myself sleep, there are many other natural way.

  1. The first one being, make sure you lock your door. Being in Uni halls can be quite daunting, especially when your flat mates are coming back late at night drunk, with people they don’t even know. Locking your door will give your brain the security it needs to help you fall as well.
  2. Create a comfortable environment for yourself. By having a couple of cuddly toys and pillows will easily do the trick as you will feel at home.
  3. Try and cut out on late night snacking. Eating late at night means that the food will stick in your digestive system and keep you wide awake.
  4. Try and create your own night time routine. At University this will not be the same every night, but having a routine will let your body know it is time to sleep.
  5. Avoid napping in the day. I do not usually nap, at Uni I have tried to only get into bed when it is time to sleep but I know from other people that napping is the main cause of not being able to sleep at night. It will ruin your sleeping pattern.

Sleeping at University was my biggest struggle at the beginning, I hope these tips will help you all, whether you are at University or not.